I’m an aromantic individual in a polyamorous relationship. It’s a new development in all honesty, and I’m testing the waters.
To be honest, I love them, but I can’t with complete certainty say that I’m in love with them. I would do anything for them, But I’m honestly seemingly incapable of feeling romantic love. So I suppose it would be more accurate to say I’m friends with benefits with them, But for simplicity’s sake, we are in a relationship. Now, that is just me, however.
Aromantic individuals typically, just in general, tend to stay away from romantic relationships. They don’t feel the need for them, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t make exceptions or decide to give it a try. It does not mean that they are no longer aromantic, just that there are exceptions for some people, that’s all. Sometimes all it takes is to find that one person (or those few people)that can actually wiggle their way in. This is different from demiromanticism because a demiromantic typically only falls in love after an intense, strong friendship has been formed. For an aromantic, it could be that they somehow fall in love at first sight, and that is the absolute only time they have felt that pull.
But in the end, It all comes down to each and every individual person. Everyone is different. Some fall in love, some don’t, some love sex, some don’t, and there is nothing wrong with that. To each their own, live and let live.